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How to Date Men When You Hate Men
288 pages
A hilarious, commiserating romp through the exhausting contradictions of desiring romance in a patriarchal world.
What it feels like
Reading this book feels like sitting in a dimly lit bar with your sharpest, funniest friend as she dissects the absolute absurdity of modern romance. The pace is brisk and joke-dense, propelled by a conversational prose style that effortlessly blends high-minded feminist theory with deeply relatable, self-deprecating anecdotes about texting anxiety. It wraps you in a mood of cozy commiseration, offering a safe space to roll your eyes at the patriarchy while secretly admitting you still want a rom-com ending. Beneath the wry, exasperated tone lies a surprisingly tender emotional core that celebrates the messy, vulnerable act of trying to connect with other humans. It is an absolute delight for anyone who feels exhausted by dating apps but refuses to give up on love entirely.
- Mood
- commiserating
- lively
- cynical-yet-hopeful
- Tone
- wry
- self-deprecating
- exasperated
- conversational
- sharp
- Pace
- brisk
- Themes
- millennial dating fatigue · feminist contradictions · the absurdity of modern romance · unrequited crushes · self-sabotage
- The writing
- Punchy, joke-dense, and highly conversational, reading like a brilliant, slightly unhinged voice memo from your funniest friend.
- The arc
- Moves from a posture of defensive, comedic exasperation to a surprisingly tender embrace of human vulnerability and connection.
- Who it's for
- Feminists exhausted by the modern dating landscape who still harbor a stubborn, secret romantic streak.
Content notes
- dating anxiety
- mild sexual content
- sexism
About the book
From New Yorker and Onion writer and comedian Blythe Roberson, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a comedy philosophy book aimed at interrogating what it means to date men within the trappings of modern society. Blythe Roberson's sharp observational humor is met by her open-hearted willingness to revel in the ugliest warts and shimmering highs of choosing to live our lives amongst other humans. She collects her crushes like ill cared-for pets, skewers her own suspect decisions, and assures readers that any date you can mess up, she can top tenfold. And really, was that date even a date in the first place? With sections like Real Interviews With Men About Whether Or Not It Was A Date; Good Flirts That Work; Bad Flirts That Do Not Work; and Definitive Proof That Tom Hanks Is The Villain Of You've Got Mail, How to Date Men When You Hate Men is a one stop shop for dating advice when you love men but don't like them.
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