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The porn trap
First published 2008 · 304 pages
A compassionate, practical roadmap out of the shadows of addiction and back toward genuine intimacy.
What it feels like
Reading this book feels like sitting down with a deeply empathetic, non-judgmental counselor who understands exactly how you got here and knows the way out. The pace is steady and methodical, guiding readers through the heavy, often shame-filled terrain of addiction with a steady hand. It balances the serious, reflective mood of confronting destructive behaviors with a profoundly hopeful atmosphere of recovery. The prose is clear and accessible, stripping away clinical jargon in favor of relatable stories, practical checklists, and actionable steps. It is a lifeline for individuals caught in compulsive cycles and for partners navigating the painful fallout, offering a structured, compassionate journey toward reclaiming personal integrity and rebuilding genuine, healthy intimacy.
- Mood
- hopeful
- serious
- reflective
- supportive
- Tone
- compassionate
- authoritative
- non-judgmental
- earnest
- practical
- Pace
- steady
- Themes
- overcoming addiction · rebuilding trust · healing relationships · reclaiming intimacy · personal integrity
- The writing
- Clear, accessible, and deeply empathetic, prioritizing actionable advice and relatable anecdotes over clinical jargon.
- The arc
- Moves from the heavy realization of destructive habits toward a grounded, empowering sense of hope and relational healing.
- Who it's for
- Individuals struggling with compulsive pornography use and their partners seeking a structured, shame-free path to recovery and intimacy.
Content notes
- discussions of pornography
- sexual addiction
- relationship trauma
- infidelity
About the book
Since the explosion of the Internet and other forms of digital technology, the number of people addicted to pornography has skyrocketed. But there has been a distinct lack of resources to help them until now. The Porn Trap is the first book to take a comprehensive look at porn addiction and other devastating consequences of porn use, addressing the full range of problems that impact everyone from recreational "dabblers" to compulsive addicts, and the people who care about them.In this groundbreaking book, sex and relationship therapists Wendy and Larry Maltz take on this important subject with wisdom, authority, and compassion. They shed new light on the power of pornography—revealing why it's so easy to develop a serious problem with porn and often hard to break free from its clutches. Without judgment or blame, the Maltzes outline the destructive effects of porn use, and offer a commonsense, practical approach for healing supported by innovative exercises, checklists, and suggestions.The Porn Trap will help you to:Identify and evaluate the impact of pornDecide whether it's time to quit using pornLearn how to stop using porn and deal with cravingsRebuild self-esteem and restore personal integrityHeal a relationship harmed by porn use, andDevelop a thriving and satisfying sexual life without porn Throughout the book are powerful real-life stories from everyday people from all walks of life who have struggled with porn and gotten out from under its influence. Their experiences show that no matter how bad things may seem, it is possible to change and eventually triumph over this increasingly common problem.With The Porn Trap, Wendy and Larry Maltz provide a unique blend of help, hope, and healing for all who want to move away from porn, improve their lives, and create genuine intimacy with a partner.
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