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He Comes Next
The Thinking Woman's Guide to Pleasuring a Man
298 pages
A witty, shame-free roadmap to understanding male desire and cultivating deeper physical intimacy.
What it feels like
Reading this guide feels like having a frank, judgment-free conversation with a highly knowledgeable sex therapist who also happens to be a witty friend. The pace is brisk and engaging, moving seamlessly between anatomical education, psychological insights, and practical techniques. It cultivates an atmosphere of open-minded curiosity, stripping away the awkwardness often associated with discussing sexual mechanics and male vulnerability. The prose is accessible and humorous, ensuring that the educational aspects never feel dry or clinical. It is a deeply empowering read for anyone looking to dismantle common myths about male sexuality, bridge the communication gap in the bedroom, and foster a more generous, deeply connected intimate life with their partner.
- Mood
- intimate
- open-minded
- curious
- empowering
- Tone
- frank
- witty
- encouraging
- educational
- conversational
- Pace
- brisk
- Themes
- sexual communication · male vulnerability · intimacy building · pleasure and anatomy · dismantling sexual myths
- The writing
- Accessible, humorous, and straightforward, blending clinical expertise with the casual warmth of a trusted confidant.
- The arc
- Moves from demystifying male anatomy and desire to empowering the reader with practical, confidence-boosting techniques for deeper intimacy.
- Who it's for
- Women looking to deepen their understanding of male sexuality and enhance physical intimacy in their relationships through open, shame-free guidance.
Content notes
- explicit sexual content
- frank discussions of anatomy
About the book
The companion book to Ian Kerner's smash success She Comes First, He Comes Next offers women his sometimes radical, always expert advice on everything from the nature of male desire to sex-techniques that work While women everywhere benefited from Ian Kerner's sexual philosophy of female pleasure in She Comes First, now it's time to learn all about what turns men on and makes them stay on. In He Comes Next, Kerner covers every angle of male sexuality, illuminates the most common sex-life ruts, and offers practical, knowledgeable answers to women's most frequently asked questions. In his role as a sex therapist, Kerner has spoken with countless men not only about the best sex they ever had, but also perhaps more important about the best sex they never had — experiences they always desired and fantasized about, but were afraid to share with their partners. In the spirit of "full exposure," He Comes Next is the closest you'll ever come to waking up in a guy's skin and knowing what truly makes him sexually tick.Sexual pleasure goes beyond tips and tactics, however. Our sexual identities — and the expression, gratification, and growth of these identities — is fundamental to the success of our intimate relationships. With step-by-step and — yes — blow-by-blow detail, Kerner provides a clear, concise, achievable vision of sexual pleasure, one in which each technique forwards the action and where the whole is greater than the sum of its parts.Written in the same witty, insightful, and utterly readable voice that has made She Comes First and Be Honest — You're Not That Into Him Either so popular, He Comes Next is the thinking woman's guide to enjoying sex to the fullest and ensuring that he does the same.
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